We
are always growing up from the moment of birth through the education period and
moving on to our first real job. It is
around this time that we start to practice a serious union of our own outside our
original family.
It
maybe that it is from this time that we have the most to look forward to, but it
is also the hardest time to achieve all that we materially need for our own new
family. We need to be true to ourselves
and our loved one.
These
are the most formative years, when we strive to supply a home and put food on
the table for a steady life with happiness and without the overstrain of too
much worry and concern for our future.
It is
here that the most important guidance can be applied to our lives, so that we
follow Spiritual Law and reap according to what we sow. This is the time when so many mistakes are
made by those who scoff a Higher Intelligence above their own.
Few
find life easy at this point, even though there is a sort of indestructible
mechanism within that says that those bad things can never happen to me. They only happen to others when their lives
go wrong through their own mistakes.
Sadly,
they can and do. Many lives are ruined
by the hurt inflicted on them by others if they fail to stand up for
themselves. The building of a new family
relationship is fraught with dangers unless unconditional love rules.
There
is an old saying that if you move in haste you repent at leisure. Too often it all seems a good idea to rush
into a relationship and expect/hope that it will work out for the best.
Usually
there are little signs along the way, which are so often ignored. What you get out of a relationship depends on
what you put into it and how your contributions are received. You also need to be respected as well as
loved.
To
give and take should apply to both parties and not with one giving and one
taking. As time goes on, the differences
often become plainer and painful times happen, making us wonder where we went
wrong.
These
are the most formative years on which future happiness is based. Bad times leave emotional scars that if not
treated will remain for the rest of that lifetime. Action needs to be taken, because just
muddling through solves nothing.
As
we look forward to what we think we want most, the dream is held as a mental
representation of a present left under the tree that will make us happy without
us having to work at it.
Very
rarely is a miracle given to us of what we want most without a price to be paid
then or later. That Higher Intelligence
thinks too highly of us to just feed our expectant whims.
To
build ourselves in a progressive spiritual way, we need to experience what is
put there in our pathway. We can then
overcome the damage of hurt and sometimes pain too, otherwise we achieve and
learn nothing.
Somebody
once said that you should never love something so much that you are frightened
of losing it. This applies to material
things especially and nothing is worth that amount pain.
To
love a person so deeply that you couldn’t bear to lose them, shows that the
quality of that loss would become a burden on them as well as you. By all means love them but share that love
and go through all the ups and downs together as one.
As
we move on in life looking to our future, we have different hopes and dreams
according to our place on that ladder of life that we have risen to. However, with age we tend to understand more
and to give more to those around us.
We
reach the summit of our career, have a nice home and perhaps enjoy
retirement. This is a time for
relaxation, the pursuing of hobbies and joining in to help the community around
us, where there may be many who need support and that helping hand.
Soon
enough we reach that understanding that there are friends and relatives that
have passed on and thoughts start to occur about our coming time to go. We have already made provisions for our
family members.
Know
that all through our life there has been a thread of divinity and
guidance. Did we recognise it? Were we able to understand that within us there
are the answers to all questions if we ask in the right way. It is never too late to seek the Spirit,
which is within.
Preparation
for that final stepping over to a state of unconditional love is there for us
to accept and enjoy. We must make sure
that we are ready to honour the life that we have lived here and are willing and
able to accept unconditional love in return.
Jenny and Michael Ayers
Tuesday, 5th February 2019
