One’s word is one’s bond and to make a promise is to ensure that this will be fulfilled. It is not a spur of the moment thing to make and is always a sacred moment to give one’s word that this contract will be fulfilled. For those who have been married, it is the most sacred oath to promise to each other that you will look after each other in good times or in bad. To have been married more that once doesn’t mean that you have broken your oath. If you are divorced by the other party, you cannot be held responsible for the breaking of the oath unless you failed to live up to your responsibilities. A marriage can be said to have broken down if both parties fail to live up to what they promised to do and a divorce is the practical solution, so both parties can start again. The other way that a marriage ceases to bear the vows is when one of the two die and then even with love remaining, the vows are deemed to have been set aside.
Many marriages are held in lifelong love and it is the vows that were taken with unconditional love to each other in front of a congregation of witnesses and in the eyes of God that remains true and solid for all earthly time. Promises such as these become permanent in the lives of good souls, who take matters seriously and will continue to do so. Where it was stated above that these marital vows were taken with unconditional love, it is important to reflect on the true nature of these words. Where love is unconditional, it is given freely by a soul with a giving nature and whether male or female, that nature cannot and will not be changed. The soul of a taker on the other hand equally cannot and will not change, so it is necessary that one observes the fact that it is very unwise for a giver to marry a taker.
All the while a taker is given what they want, they will apparently be at peace with the giver, but if that level of giving falls below what they expect or want, this one-sided relationship will start to fall apart and no promises from the taker can be expected to be honored. Where promises have been made but only kept on track by one party, the abused soul cannot be expected to hold faith to the promise which they made. It therefore becomes inevitable that a parting of the ways needs to be called for. If the giver remains in that sort of a relationship, they will be destroyed. They can never give enough, as a taker will always want more however much they have, they will continue asking for more. They cannot ever keep their ill-gotten gains, as they become easily won so they are not considered worthy enough to be kept wisely and used sparingly. They always feel that they can easily get more, and they do.
The engagement period for two people is a time to prepare for the taking of those serious vows, whether in church or in a civil ceremony. It comes to the same thing, whether you invite God into your lives together or not. He will be there! Because you may have chosen a church wedding and the expense of the fine words and frippery of the professional clergy, does not mean that God is behind them. What is in your hearts and minds is what matters. As you make your promises together, you are making perhaps the most important statement of your life. Have you used the time wisely before and after accepting the engagement to know what sort of partner you are committing to? Never can it be left to chance. Unconditional love has to be there in both your hearts and demonstrated always as God was your witness, where and whenever you make a promise.
Thursday, 6th May 2021
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